The past few nights we have been doing a little binge watching on Netflix. Who doesn’t do a little binge watching these days? The show we have been watching is one that I didn’t think I would really enjoy. Thanks to the preview they play, I was curious to see what it was about and ended up watching the entire first episode. I had originally thought that I would view enough to satisfy my curiosity and move on to the things I normally like to watch. I was wrong.
I know you’re totally dying right now to know what this show is…. it is called Physical:100. I had never heard of it and it just showed up on Netflix. I will say that I really did enjoy it.
This is a reality show (which is not something I normally watch with the exception of The Great British Baking Show) that takes place in Korea and forewarning – it’s all in subtitles. It is also a competition that starts with 100 people and through various challenges comes down to 1. If these things are not of interest to you, I would still encourage you to watch the first episode.
Okay, but what does this have to do with quilting? Don’t worry, I’ll get there. First more about the show.
The competitors on this show are elite: Olympians, MMA fighters, Body Builders, Competitive Wrestlers, Fitness Trainers, Cross Fit, Strong Men, etc. Their physiques and the time/effort taken to sculpt them are to be respected. Tasks before them required endurance, strength, and agility. While I began with curiosity about what kind of tasks through which they would have to compete, I found myself becoming interested during their initial meeting. A good portion of the first episode is the gathering of these 100 contestants. Their reputations precede them and even though each of them are leaders in their own right, watching how they respected each other and recognized talents was fascinating and thought provoking. As the competition began you could see there was more than just that respect. They pushed and cheered each other to not give up, to fight through and do their best to complete their tasks. As the pool of competitors decreased, some of those that were eliminated were able to say a few words. They spoke of how honored they felt to be in the competition and how they wished their other competitors well. There was mention of continuing to train to make themselves better. There was no drama, no tantrums, no sabotage.
Now, while we are not necessarily physically sculpted fitness experts, as quilters (especially experienced quilters) we have worked at sculpting our minds. We have curated knowledge whether it be learned as we crafted or taught to us by our ancestors. We become masters of a certain technique or style of quilt or use of a specialized tool/machine. We spend time developing our talents and abilities.
One thing I think we forget is that we all have to start somewhere. It’s easy to look at quilters who are just starting out and offer criticism concerning their efforts. It’s easy to see the mistakes and proclaim our own methods to be better suited for the craft. We forget those beginning quilters are listening to those words. They are taking in that criticism and it can turn them away from our craft. Who wants to be told that their efforts aren’t worth it? Before you go down the path of thought that if we don’t tell them they can’t fix it – stop. There is plenty of time to help them fix methods. There isn’t always time to help them stick with it. They know that there are things wrong, but why shouldn’t they be proud of their efforts? We can fool ourselves with sentiments such as they don’t have what it takes, or this isn’t for everyone. The reality is that making one quilt isn’t enough for someone to really know what it is to make a quilt. Or even to know if it is a process they will enjoy. It takes time and repetition to breed familiarity and competence. That’s when we know if we enjoy the process. How many of us have given up on a technique after trying it once or twice? I’m sure we all have. There is a difference though. When you have a breadth and depth of knowledge to draw from it is easier to decide if a new method/pattern/whatever will work for you. Without that to draw from, everything is new and it is more challenging to find what really does work for you. We forget our own growing pains once we find our joy in the process. We forget that we had to make the mistakes or ask the questions. We don’t forget how others made us feel while we were going through it all.
What does all of this have to do with the random show on Neflix? It’s about the treatment of others. It’s about respect for those who have talents in different areas. Its about offering support to another human being. We live in a remarkable era where technology offers so many options and we carry small powerful computers in our pockets. That technology allows us to connect with people from around the globe. It’s truly amazing. With all of that technology available to us, we lose our human connection.
This random physical competition where these paragons of their fields were striving for victory also showcased sportsmanship and respect. Sure, you could argue that their culture demands the respect, but at the same time it was refreshing to see people competing for the same goal and also being so strong emotionally to recognize the talent and the strength of those around them. There wasn’t loud posturing and when teams were created leaders emerged and tasks were completed and no one was jealous of those taking the leadership roles or declaring they could have done a better job.
This is something I strive for on the daily; to give a hand up and not a push down. We all have our strengths and weaknesses, even in quilting. It doesn’t take much to offer a word of encouragement or to offer assistance in a kind manner (I saw your quilt has a lot of 4 patches. I have an easy way to do those let me know if you would like me to show you. or How awesome you tried a bargello. You should talk to Loretta, she does a lot of those and might have some tips if you want to do more.). Honestly it really costs you nothing and you could be the one who inspires someone to stay in the craft and give it another try. No drama, no tantrums, no sabotage.
Once upon a time quilting was seen as something that old ladies do. Now we have younger and vibrant personalities offering fabric lines and new methods and patterns. If you don’t like the modern stuff, that’s okay. There is room for everyone. At one time machine quilting was viewed in a negative light and hand quilting to be the right way. Our craft will continue to have growing pains as it evolves over time. Just remember we all had to start somewhere.